Originally Posted by srmom
Okay, I didn't read the posts last evening, so missed all the advice of the last two pages. I did call her mom last night and the conversation went very well, in fact, she was very glad I called, they had been contemplating calling us as well.
Apparently, she and her husband are well aware of the fact that my son has broken up with her and that her daughter is having a really hard time accepting it. They have forbidden her from calling/texting/coming over to the house, but are having a tough time policing her. She asked respectfully for our help by telling our son to not accept phone calls or respond to texts and to call them if she shows up at the house. She went into the state of her daughters mental health, and as I suspected, there are issues and they are dealing with them professionally. The rumors I had heard about her weight issues (anorexia) were true, so she has been treated psychologically in the past, and they are having her treated now.
I think it was a relief to her mom that we spoke, and that we got everything out on the table. She was very complimentary of my son and his behavior throughout this and totally felt that it was her daughter who was "at fault". Although I hate to use that term because I truly feel that she is not 100% in control of herself at this point.
Honestly, my heart breaks, not only for the girl, but for her parents too. This time of their lives is so important, so many things happening, and to be dealing with this must be excrutiating. Probably the worst thing for her was to get romantically involved with someone, and if I had known about her issues in the past, I would have tried to steer my son away from that kind of involvement. Oh well, hindsight is 20/20 and all I can do now is wish her and her parents the best in a terrible situation...
I am going to look into the call blocking, and if not that, changing his number. I am also having son lock the door after himself when he gets home.
But, I wanted to let y'all know that it wasn't breaking and entering, or considered that. Where we live (believe it or not in this day and age) open doors are the norm in the daytime, and all my son's friends have always just come in the back door. It is sad that we have to start locking the door and expecting knocks or bells, but the situation warrants it.
Anyway, I really appreciate your advice, although I'm glad I didn't read the scary ones or I might have had a harder time picking up the telephone, which did end up being the right way to go.
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