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Originally Posted by 33girl
I would let the rest of the members know that you have respect for the national group but that you don't like the way this was handled, and if they can't or won't see your side of it, I would not join the national - just try to stay friends with the brothers you are closest to.
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That really is the the thing. I have a great deal of respect for the national organization and I have expressed it countless times. They were the type of organization that I had hoped that we would grow to be like. Just feel like the entire situation was handled the wrong way. It was suppose to be a unanimous vote, it never took place and it happened. Other things that were messed up was that the alumni were not informed until much later and many of them were against it but their opinions were not taken into consideration at all. It was basically a "We'll listen to what you're gonna say but it's not going to matter what you say". That was just very disrespectful to those who worked so hard starting us up and keeping it going. It's also kinda frustrating when one of the new initiates was transferring soon and had plans to start up a new chapter.
When talking to them about it, all they said was well it's done and you might as well go with it, besides if we do it we get this and this, etc. When they found out that I was really serious of not wanting to do it, they started to treat different since and won't talk about it. Didn't think that would happen. Ironically you comparing this to getting a new house is actually a reminder of how we lost two brothers.
The only people that I talked to that understand is my little. The feeling is if they would treat me this way then it's a show then of how they really are and I'm not sure if I want to associate with that. At the same time however it's like I've been a part of this for a long time and can't really imagine what it would be like to let go.