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Originally Posted by srmom
My husband and I have stayed out of it, only counseling him to be kind, but firm in his wanting to end the relationship. My son has tried to handle it, but, it is getting totally out of control. She calls and texts his cell phone up to 30 times a day or more, and calls our house phone repeatedly. She now has started showing up at our house and walking in the open back door, univited and unannounced. It is very upsetting to my son who really doesn't know how to handle it. He has tried being nice, he has tried being mean, nothing works, and the behavior is becoming more and more obsessive.
Yesterday when I came home from work, she was at the house. I hadn't seen her in quite some time, and when I saw her last night, I was alarmed. It looks like she has lost a LOT of weight (like scary skinny). I know through the grapevine that she has had issues with anorexia in the past, and frankly, I am majorly concerned about her mental and physical health. She was crying and apologetic that I found her at the house. I told her that she needed to leave and that the constant phoning and showing up was not helping matters, that she needed to give my son space, and that maybe in time, they could be friends again. The whole scene was really kind of weird (hard to describe).
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@Bolded...
First she's texting calling a bajillion times... Clue 1.
Second Very skinny... You don't know if she has Anorexia unless you have been trained to recognize it... But the key is, how was she dress--appropriate for your climate or "scantily clad" with inappropriate make-up and disheveled hair??? Clue 2.
Third, you chose to engage her. People like that always take it out of context--she rapidly turns stuff around to say, if I am quiet enough that he doesn't notice me, then we can be friends, leading to lovers, again... But, you don't know that... Clue 3
You don't have hardcore proof that she showed up at your house unannounced and uninvited... That takes pictures...
So, if you don't have the video security cams with recordings, then it's your word against hers... And she can lie to save her butt... And "they" always favor the damsel in distress...
You want to protect your family, especially your son, get your stuff in order...
I suggest you see the domestic violence counselors... They are suppose to help people with that, even those it is in the "reverse"--a man being harassed by a woman...