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I've been lurking for some time but this thread prompted me to register and share some advice from someone who was not completely happy with his new member period.
The fraternity I joined was my first choice, I loved the brothers and everything about it and I really felt that I had found my home. Almost immediately after accepting my bid I realized that I did not really fit in with my pledge class and I wasn't sure how the brothers I thought I fit in so well with could choose people who were so unlike me. I really began to question whether or not I belonged. Now I know that this is nothing like your story but I would urge you to continue on with your new member period. The process is really a journey and brotherhood/sisterhood is built along the way. After being around for a while I started to love my pledge class and they are now some of my best friends and brothers. If you've ever read Harry Potter (I can't believe I'm using this reference) you know when Harry and Ron save Hermione from the troll and it says something like 'there are some things like fighting a mountain troll that you can't come out of not being best friends.' That's how it was for me and I hope you're time as a new member helps you to learn to love your sisterhood. Remember though, its a two way street and as long as you put in the effort to get to know people and have fun I think it can end up being a wonderful experience for you. My second thoughts about my fraternity are completely gone and turned around into a deep love for my brothers.
I wish you the best of luck. If you decide that its not for you then at least you tried, and no one will think any less of you for your decision.
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