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I am confused about the rationale of living together to "find out if you get along with someone" or to "figure out what you're getting." I can understand if a couple lives together for financial reasons or convenience or simply because they want to. I do not, however, understand what I can find out about a person living with them that I cannot figure out seeing them three-four days weekly. I mean, most modern couples are staying at each other's homes totally randomly at least a couple of days a week, right? Anymore than that, I don't feel like I dating a guy, I feel like I'm playing house. There will be things you HATE about someone else's grooming or housekeeping habits. Whether you see that person daily or every three days, the truth really does come out in the wash, so to speak, if you're observant. When the irritation sets in, as it invariably does, it's very easy to say "get out of "my" house" without trying to work things out, because there is NO obligation or commitment to do so.
I'm not saying that you cannot find out information about someone by living with someone. But I don't think it's a predictor in the relative success or failure of your relationship. If you want to do it, then do it. But if you morally, ethically or realistically just don't want to, I wouldn't let anyone tell me that it's the only way to determine "if you are right for each other," because I've just seen no facts that really back that claim.
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