[ASTalumna06]

Originally Posted by 33girl

In these "pageants" to determine sweetheart - who chooses the men who are going to compete?

Yea, I’m confused. Does each chapter choose a few people to be their potential sweetheart, and then the men compete for the title? Or is there a big pool of guys, and random ones will win for different chapters, regardless of whether the chapter really knows them or not? Or something else completely?

Personally, I think that having a competition for a privilege such as this is kind of crazy. We have always chosen our sweethearts after carefully considering who has continuously been supportive of the chapter in a variety of ways. Last semester, my chapter’s sweetheart graduated, and the sisters have had a few people to choose from to be the next one. But they recently decided to hold off on choosing a new one until the end of this semester, as all of the sisters don’t feel that they truly know each of these guys well enough to make an informed decision. They don't want to quickly pick someone just to have a sweetheart... and they shouldn't. I just think that leaving it up to fate might produce less-than-ideal results. And IMO, it takes away from the meaning behind the title.