Quote:
Originally Posted by LΩVE
Well, I have to say, thank you for a very civil post.
I guess I fail to see why those who are new are not entitled to strong opinions, but I'll leave it at that.
I agree that sometimes it is shock factor...the difference between understanding why and understanding the rush some people obviously get is the difference between head and heart.
Yes, time does help smooth things over, it's just frustrating to know that I'll probably die before it ends, if it ever does. I'm human. I do tend to judge people by their actions and their words, even though I know it's wrong. What I hope I don't ever judge them by is the things that they are born with...gender, race, sexual orientation, etc.
|
@Bolded. It's been a long time. Thanks... Because really, I have not been civil because I have be exhausted in having to prove who and what I am. It is not like it's difficult. I don't really lie, I am bad at it, so I don't do it... Oh well. I might get over it.
I thought the same thing too about new people having strong opinions, but I learned differently when I put myself in that situation and I am 40 years old... Oh well... I might get over that...
Now judgment is given to use to protect ourselves from long ago. Similar to anger as an emotion, judgment is that bridge between emotions and thoughts.
All of these are just emotional responses. Not thoughtful or academic. They are opinions and not informed ones at that...
However, we all use judgment as a quick learning form, i.e. pro vs. con... We judge when the "eye" is hot when we cook, i.e. remember, I know the cook eye is hot, so I will not touch it--that is how we get the logic to not touch it. Discernment is a higher form of judgment to know the difference, IMO. Wisdom is to move beyond that discernment.
In Mindfulness, when you focus on your innermost energy, your mind reels in waves. You are to just notice the stray then breathe to get back to your focus. And if you stray 1000 times, you breathe to get back to your focus 1000 times. Getting angry, frustrated, and bring about a value to your frustration, which is judgment, is not productive.