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Originally Posted by sceniczip
I sort of felt this way until really this past semester because I felt like I wasn't included as much as the rest of my pledge class. Now that I've started hanging out at the house more I see more of the girls and realized that they are all so sweet and I love all of them so much  I can be very outgoing once I get to know somebody but at first I'm usually pretty shy (in most situations at least). It can be intimidating to try and get to know all the women in your chapter at once so try inviting just a couple to go grab lunch or something. I'm sure you'll be pleasantly surprised. As has been mentioned before but deserves repeating, you get out what you put in I learned that the hard way lol. But now that I have a position and am around more I truly value every single one of my sisters and wouldn't trade Delta Gamma for anything. |
Exactly.
When I was in middle school and girls were mean and catty I got picked on occasionally, but I developed a complex and thought EVERYONE hated me and made fun of me when in reality it was about three girls, and I was certainly not special enough to be their only victim. There were many "me's". My mom finally sat me down and told me to get over myself. Of course I was offended, wanting her to be on my side and bash those mean girls with me. But she explained that 99% of the people in my grade 99% of the time (with the exception of people I was close enough to to see every day and talk to every day) weren't thinking bad things about me because they weren't thinking about me at all. Most people are self centered to some degree by nature, and this is especially true of teenagers and young adults. Brains don't stop developing until 25. And that changed my viewpoint completely, because when I stopped fuming I realized it was true.
The fact is you probably don't feel like you fit in because as sceniczip pointed out, though your sisters probably think you're nice, they probably don't think much else one way or another. You HAVE to make yourself known to be remembered and eventually to be included. They probably aren't thinking about you when they don't see you because they don't know you and whether or not you think it's fair, it's up to YOU to change the situation. All the suggestions that posters have given are good. Basically, find any opportunity to hang out. Personally I'm not close to many of my sisters at the moment, but it's because I haven't made much effort to hang out due to school. So when I have a chance I call a sister that I don't hang out with often or don't know all that well to go out with. And then one day when she wants something to do and is trying to think of someone to do it with, she'll call me. That's how it works. It's a lot of work, but it's worth it.