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Originally Posted by OTW
You're asking a bunch of strangers for help and we were presented with only a few details. Did you expect copious amounts of sunshine blown up the ass? Sorry honey, you won't find that here.
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Mixers aren't the only means of getting to know your sisters so don't even try to use that as an excuse. Same thing about not having a house. Ever heard of asking them to have lunch somewhere on campus? My collegiate chapter does not have a house, but the sisterhood was still there.
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Amen.
To the OP... you asked us for advice, and everyone answered the question that you asked. You didn't say, "I have doctor's appointments, so I can't make it to a bunch of stuff... what should I do in order to socialize with my sisters?" Instead, you said, "I don't attend mixers and formal functions, and I'm thinking about dropping."
There's a BIG difference between those two statements.
You also have to understand that there have been numerous threads posted here recently which read almost identically to your original post. We're all repeating the same advice again (which is fine), but as of late, there are a large number of new members/recently initiated sisters who are just shrugging their shoulders, saying, "No one likes me. I guess I'll quit," before they even make an effort to get to know their sisters. You sounded exactly like them. So please don't get mad at us when you left out important details behind your story.
Also, my chapter doesn't have a house, either, and I never had a problem making friends. As I said, simply ask your sisters if you can tag along when they go somewhere. Or ask a sister to go to lunch with you. Or even just send them nice messages on Facebook every so often... Whatever you can do to make yourself seen and known will help!