[KSUViolet06]

If I had a dime for every time I have had to post about this on GC:

Sorority relationships are just like ALL OTHER RELATIONSHIPS.

They are a two way street.

Think about all the other relationships in your life. You didn't just sit back and wait for your best friend to ask you to hang out. You reached out to each other, made plans, etc.

It's the same with your sorority.

You have to reach out to girls, go to events, and make friends with them.

YOU ARE NOT GOING TO MAKE FRIENDS IF YOU SKIP ALL THE SOCIALS.

It is completely unreasonable for you to expect that you can sit back and not talk to girls or attend socials and still have tons of friends in your chapter. It just doesn't work that way. People are not generally inclined to want to hang out with girls who NEVER COME TO EVENTS.

It's not instantaneous.

You said yourself that you don't attend social events because you have other plans. In order to make friends with other girls, you also have to attend events, because that's where the bonding happens.

So in a nutshell, you can't sit back and be passive, waiting for girls to ask you to hang out and be your friend. You also can't always skip socials and expect girls to get to know you and be your friend. You have to be active.

If you aren't willing to reach out to other girls and make friends, then you may as well drop out because you can't make friends just sitting back and waiting for girls to notice you.