[ASTalumna06]

I’m going to guess that you were just recently initiated. If this is the case, I would also guess that you don’t yet have any positions in the sorority. This is the perfect opportunity to offer your help. Ask a sister if you can help her out with her position. Good positions to help with would probably be recruitment, fundraising, philanthropy and social, which usually require a large amount of work. These positions might already have committees, but if you ask to be the sister’s “assistant” (if they don’t already have one), then they’ll probably love you for it. Just tell a sister that you might be interested in eventually running for the position, and you’d love to get a feel for it. You could do something as small as making phone calls to specific fundraisers to find out potential profits... or run to the store to pick up some last minute decorations for recruitment. Whatever the case, this way, you’ll have a consistent line of communication open between you and that sister.

Another option... simply ask girls if you can tag along when they go out. I would do this all the time when I first joined. While one of my sisters would always complain that she was never invited anywhere, I would ask, “Hey, can I come, too?” I would always get a response of “Of course!” with tons of smiles, followed by, “Do you need me to pick you up?” If your sisters are nice, don’t be afraid to ask them if you can go where they’re going.

Yet another option... be so bold as to plan something yourself. A movie, a dinner, a night in watching your favorite tv show... anything!

And if you’re not attending mixers and formals, then you’re missing out on the fun parts of Greek life. How can you expect to make friends with people if you never socialize with them? It’s like sitting next to a girl in class. If you see her every Monday, Wednesday and Friday, and you talk briefly before class starts about what you did over the weekend, and about the outcome of the Sunday ball game, and about the homework that’s due... but you never go to a party with her, and you never grab some dinner with her, and you never study with her, and you never see a movie with her... then you’re never going to be best friends. The same thing goes for making friends with your sisters. If you’re only seeing them in business meetings and while working philanthropic events, and you never hang out and watch Grey’s Anatomy, or talk over coffee in between classes, then you’ll never form lasting friendships.

If you were just initiated this past semester, I would highly recommend that you stick with it. Because everyone here will tell you the same things... a) a few weeks as a sister isn’t any amount of time to immediately find your best friend for life, b) remember that you have a say in who the next new members will be, and you might find your best friends in them, and c) you can't become friends with people if you don't make an effort.