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Originally posted by The Original Ape
I think it's necessary for most people to live with their prospective spouse prior to jumpin' the broom IF THEY REALLY WANT TO KNOW WHAT THEY'RE GETTING. It's so easy to put on, wear, and take off a mask if you two live separately. When you live together, it's almost impossible to keep that mask on. Sooner or later, you'll have to take it off.
I would strongly suggest to all bruthas that they live with the gurl before they pop that question. It's one of the few ways to know what you're gettin'.
Engagement rings don't come cheap; and some of the best stores wont give you your money back beyond 30 days. What if she's nasty, or can't cook? Why then, would you give a girl a ring that you weren't thoroughly convinced about? Live with her. Get to know her; and if she passes ALL of your tests, THEN get the ring and ask her. IN THAT ORDER! You'll pay a heavy price if you do it any other way!
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WOW! are you saying that you believe a person can wear a mask for years and then all of the sudden unleash the "true them" once they get (or give) a ring??? you don't think you would know that she couldn't cook before you all got married? you don't think you would know that she kept a messy house before you all got married???
what are you doing throughout the relationship if you AREN'T getting to know her?
NONE of those things should be a surprise by time you bend down on one knee and ask that person to spend the rest of their life with you! forgive my ignorance, but i just assumed that was the normal progression of a RELATIONSHIP!!! i am relatively sure many of these things would come to light before you made a lifetime committment to them, but hey i could be wrong!
