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Originally Posted by christiangirl
See, that would've been a very unlikely reaction. You see stories within this thread (and IRL) where friends tried to shed some light on it and ended up being cut out of that person's life. It's very common for a woman to choose a man and his nonsense over her friends and family (why, IDK). My aunt went through the same thing. So have I. My very best friend in the world was sleeping with a married man and I told her straight up that wasn't a good decision. With all the lies he told her to cover up the fact he had a wife, that he had kids...it didn't make sense to stay with him after she uncovered all the lies. Well, she broke off our friendship instead. I bet no one came forward because they were afraid you'd push them away and then have no one to turn to if your situation became dangerous. That was my and my cousin's reasoning was when another cousin was in trouble. I ended up saying something and guess what--she flipped out and we haven't spoken in a year. Now at least my other cousin is still in her good graces because if something does go down, she's going to need someone to reach out to and, because I spoke up, it won't be me (or her mother and sister--she's alienated both). It'd be a dangerous thing if she felt she had no one so we just want to keep at least one relative in play.
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It just blew my mind the amount of people who had no contact with each other, all saying the same thing after the fact. I didn't even realize there were problems until I went away on an archaeology dig, and his behavior was so out of character. Just yesterday I told a coworker about it (my boss knew for legal reasons) and he was shocked because my ex doesn't come off that way at all.