[ASTalumna06]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

Good advice. Being nice is universal to ALL recruitments.

I've seen it happen where girls are rude to all but one or 2 groups, then are stunned when they end up with like one invite because the ones they wanted didn't want them, and neither did the ones they were so rude to.

Girls, you never know who will cut you or ask you back so it's best not to shoot yourselves in the foot by being rude.

There's this girl I just met a few weeks ago… we’ll call her Melissa. My bf is a Delta Chi and is still in school, so every so often I’ll go to the house and hang out. On initiation nights, they invite girls over to help them celebrate. Melissa was there, and I only knew her because she had randomly requested to be my friend on Facebook a few days earlier (I assume she saw that I was friends with the brothers?) I told her I knew who she was, she still asked how I was aware of who she is (even though I knew that she knew), I told her it was because of the friend request, and she said, “oh, no.. you must have just seen me on your bf’s page.” After that, we talked a bit (I couldn’t avoid her) and eventually she asked how long my bf and I had been together. I told her just over a year and she responded with, “That’s nice. Do you trust him?” I said “yes…,” and she said, “Oh, good luck with that.” Throughout the entire night she pretended to be my friend around everyone else, but she’d make comments like that to me periodically. And she'd TRY to get as much attention from my boyfriend as possible, but it definitely wasn't working. I was civil to her because I thought she might have been good friends with one of the brothers… she isn’t. Some people told me that she expressed interest in joining a sorority. She now wonders why members of all three chapters avoid her like the plague.

While more obvious forms of insults might rarely happen, it's still a good example of why you should be nice to ALL sorority members, both before recruitment and during. As “competitive” as sororities might seem on the outside, they can actually be a lot closer than you think. And none of them want to see anyone ruin the reputation of Greeks as a whole. If you’re rude to one member of one sorority, it means you insulted their entire chapter, and possibly all of the chapters on campus. And when that happens, you won't receive a bid to those one or two sororities you had your eye on and were EXTREMELY nice to at recruitment parties.