[KSUViolet06]

It seems like everyone's got one of these. I have a friend who is engaged to a guy whom we all hate.

He was 25 when they met and she was 20. He liked to tell her what to do, and she thought it was "cute." He pretty much controlled her social life. For example, if we were going to do a "girl's night," he would give her a hard time about going somewhere without him. So she only went places when he was invited to come along.

After 6 months of dating, they got engaged. She (against her parents wishes) broke her dorm room contract (she was 20 and a college soph) to move 45 minutes away into his house.

She's now 23. They still live together and have been engaged for 3 years. They have pushed back the wedding date 3 times, because at least once a year, they have a big blow up, he calls the wedding off, kicks her out, says he's sorry and takes her back, and they start planning all over again.

He controls everything. It's his house, and he controls where she goes and who she hangs out with. She complies because she doesn't want to get into an argument and get kicked out of the house.

He even controls the wedding planning. For example, he just found out that her dad doesn't like him, so no one on her dad's side of the family is invited. The venue is in his hometown. He chose the colors. He even chose the women who would be in her bridal party (he told her that he wouldn't marry her if her best friend was a bridesmaid). When confronted by friends and asked "why do you let him have so much control over stuff?" She says that she "just wants to get married and doesn't really care about the silly details." Um, favors are silly details! Telling you who to invite is more than a silly detail.

Yet she does everything he says because she loves him. It's really sad.