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Originally Posted by Scandia
On Plenty of Fish, someone messaged me first. He was not quite my type- height/build, occupation, education, and most of all personality since he was so gushy and mushy it was smothering and almost overwhelming. But there were no dealbreakers in him and I did not feel a no, so I messaged him back.
On the second email, he asked if I wanted to see a ballet with him in a city a few counties away from the one where I live in (he lives in the one just west of mine). I did not reply to that, focusing instead on other things he asked. And I did tell him that I was nowhere near as romantic as he was- that even though I am idealistic and not particularly practical, that I did not know if I could give emotionally as much as he did. Because he would mainly talk about how romantic he was.
Well, he messages me today again- and gives me his number and asks if we can get together this weekend.
Is this too much interest too soon? Or just a possible incompatibility, since I would prefer to talk a bit about our hobbies, interests, backgrounds, beliefs, and the sort before meeting. Or could he be too desperate? Is he simply being clueless but deep down means well?
What do you think?
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Scandia I was kidding with the popcorn emoticon, but honestly, I think you're headed for disaster with a guy like him. If you're independent and he's one of those clingy, mushy guys then this whole thing could cause more problems than you think. I dunno, it's just that he seems to be pushy like you said. Plus, he's romantic and you're not, I mean how would that work? It just seems like you want to give it a try out of desperation. I say that not to be mean or anything, but you said it yourself, he's not your type. You said he's not quite your type, education, occupation, height/build, and to top it off you said his personality. That, to me is pretty much the whole guy. I mean, isn't it? Everything except his looks. Btw, what does he look like? Cute, o.k. looking, not so good looking...you didn't mention that. If he didn't post a picture, and all you have to go from is what you listed, to us about him, I wouldn't do it. Think about it, he doesn't have the personality you want, he doesn't have the occupation you look for a guy to have, and based on what you posted he doesn't have a strong educational background. I really hope you find a good guy and all, but I would tell this guy you would rather not meet up with him.
Good luck