[DST Love]

Originally posted by Kimmie1913
Personally, I think people take all the being asked to be in the wedding stuff TOO DAMN SERIOUSLY!!! I mean, if the only way you can judge your relationship with your sister/cousin/friend is by whether or not she asked you to be in the wedding party says a lot about your relationship already. Most women I know did not have an easy time picking in the first place because unless she was trying to march to the alter looking like she had an army of women with her someone was not going to be asked. Many brides agonize over who to ask just because people take all of this so seriously. I have been in a few of my friends weddings and not in a few. I always looked at it as if I am secure in our friendship, who cares? (I think not being invited to the wedding is way more significant) Also, sometimes peoples families make them obligated to ask this sister, or his sisters or who knows to be in the party.

If I were you, I would be honored to stand up for my cousin because I love her. Even though she did not ask you initially, she did ask and I do think you she feel special for that. Don't let any one (not even your mom- and I know how hard that can be) tell you how YOU should feel. This is about you and your cousin, not them. Say yes, buy that dress, and try to help her feel beautiful and special on their special day. And do it all in love.

Exactly!!