[justamom]

the411 post is an excellent post and a good place to start.

We all do some "stupid" things when we are hurt and angry. When we feel we LOVE someone-it seems like that is when we let the floodgate down.

You must get the pictures and the words out of your head. You must forgive yourself for what you may have said or done. Then, accept that this is a part of the past.

You know the drill-keep busy-distracted...don't let this consume every waking moment. Find a place where you can be alone and no one can hear you. Then, sweetie, cry like there is no tomorrow, curse yourself-him-anyone you've ever been hurt by and cry some more-loud and hard. It really does help and then you can honestly say-I have no tears left and I just can't cry anymore. You will still have moments where you cry-because it's like death in a way-you will never have that person with you again. You will get over this...in time.

"Though nothing can bring back the hour, of splendor in the grass, of glory in the flower, we will grieve not. Rather, find strength in what remains behind."

credit, where credit is due!
Henry Wadsworth Longfellow- Ode on Intimations of Immortality