Ladybugmom-
I read your post and as a mom and a Recruitment Advisor I hope I can offer some insight. Not being a legacy should not hurt your daughter at all. In fact, at the school I advise at it is almost a strike against you! The girls feel legacy's have an attitude of "I'm in no matter what" The first thing we look for and cut for are grades so if you daughter has good grades that is a bonus. I will also tell you that if your daughter is shy or reserved it will make it a little more difficult. The girls that do really well during recruitment and have perfect recruitments tend to be the girls who are beautiful, envolved, good grades and light up a room when they walk in the door. Of course it doesn't hurt that they wear all the right things (cute, current stuff) say all the right things (act very interested and sincere and not look around, maintain good eye contact) and are generally warm and friendly. I could write a book after 15 years of doing this on the right way to look and act in a recruitment party. You should hear and see the comments that I hear on PNM's
Tell you daughter to keep an open mind and not to listen to the rumors on what house are good and bad ect. Not all you hear is true. Good luck. She will have a lot of fun.