[AGDee]

I'm surprised I didn't post my story before. It's not romantic, but it's pretty humorous.

About 8 months after we started dating, my bf asked me what I thought about us spending more time together. I looked at him, incredulous, because we were both working full time and in grad school at night and very, very busy. I pointed this out to him and he said "No, I mean, for the long haul". I told him there were a lot of issues we had never discussed and started ticking off things we had never talked about like our differences in religion, kids, some family issues. He dispelled each concern immediately and we went out looking at rings a few weeks later. That Christmas, we were at his sister's house and he hands me a small box from a jewelers. I thought for sure it was the ring and opened the box and there was a gold bracelet. Very pretty gold bracelet, but not the ring I thought it was going to be. 7 months later, July, I'm at work and talking with my co-worker about this relationship. I told her that I was having concerns about the fact that he hadn't proposed yet but didn't want to give him an ultimatum because I didn't want him proposing because he felt railroaded. I told her that if he was still unsure after all this time, I didn't think I was the right woman for him and that I was going to break up with him that night. He comes over and we sit on the couch and I start my spiel about how if he's not sure by now, he may never be sure and perhaps I wasn't the right person for him so I think we should stop seeing each other. He lets me go through the whole break-up speech. When I was done, he pulled a ring box out of his pocket and says "Well what am I going to do with this then?" I called him a ishthead and took the ring.

I never did ask him why he had that ring in his pocket that particular day. I've never asked if he was planning to propose or if he'd been carrying it around with him for weeks waiting for the right time or what. Definitely not the romantic proposal I had dreamed of. I guess that should have been my sign that we weren't right for each other in the first place, since we're divorced now!