[kyang08]

Originally Posted by ASTalumna06

Originally you said that you don't feel a connection with your pledge class. The reason you gave was because you live far from campus, and you don't associate with them outside of fraternity events...

Later, when asked for more clarification, you said that you have a lot of schoolwork, you need to take care of things at home for your parents and you don't think you have time to make a commitment to the fraternity.

What's the real issue here? I understand these things kind of go hand in hand, which makes me think that you might not have time for the fraternity. If that's the case, I would suggest you talk to a brother and ask him what the real time commitment is after initiation.

But... you also say that you like fraternities and like the idea of them now. On the other hand, you said that it felt as if you were given a bid simply because the fraternity is small and they needed more members. On the other hand, you say you like the brothers and your pledge class. On the other hand, you say the chapter is too small. (ahh! I have too many hands!)

You don't like the fact that the fraternity is small. Is that because you don't want to have to help a chapter build? Because you don't want the added responsibility because of your already hectic schedule? Or because you simply like being one among many?

The main problem I see is the fact that you didn't know much about fraternities, you shrugged your shoulders and thought, "I'll pledge and figure it out," and now you're in too deep and don't know what to do.

I'm just confused as to why you'd want to leave your chapter and pledge another one if you already have numerous time constraints.

because ill be taking 13 credits next semester and possibly living closer to campus.