Thread: de-pledging ?
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Old 11-13-2008, 12:16 PM
GammaPhi88 GammaPhi88 is offline
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Is it just that you haven't connected? Or when you say that its getting worse does that mean that you are being hazed? Or perhaps you are burned out on pledging, as a full semester new member period is long, and rather uncommon for these days.

From what you say, campus culture makes it very hard to get a bid as a sophomore with a history of depledging, so in my honest opinion, you should not drop out with the intentions of rerushing. Realize that what RU OX Alum said is correct, friendships are not instant, and it can take more than a few months to connect to the girls. I did not connect with my best friends in the house until a few months after I initiated. Talk to the girls you can trust, and try hard to talk to an older sister that you think you can trust.

Take 33girls advice to heart and realize that you may connect more with the next pledge class because you helped choose them.

However, if you try...and really try (this doesn't mean you can half-ass trying to connect with your sorority and then claim that they didn't reach out), and you are still not getting anywhere, then do yourself and your sorority a favor and quit. Its not good for you or them to stay in a place where you will be constantly unhappy. I know you said that you would rather be greek and in this house than not greek at all, but do you really want to be in a place for the next 3.5 years where you are uncomfortable? Think about this before you decide.

You do have girls you connect with, and if you all do stay, there will be connections for all of you. Really try your best...sororities are lifelong, and they deserve your absolute best shot.
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