[ASTalumna06]

Like Kansas City, I also come from a campus where Greek life is non-competitive, where upperclassmen receive bids, and where chapters are always looking for more members. I think the sororities would be a little more understanding, but if you're 4 or 5 weeks into pledging a fraternity and you drop, your chances of another fraternity welcoming you with open arms would be slim to none. Especially if it was for a reason such as the one you're giving.

My pledge sisters and I were never BEST friends, and we never really hung out much when we were new members. We became much better friends after the new member period was over. One girl I ended up living with, another one invited me to her very small wedding, another I talked to more than anyone in college (even though she dropped), and another became my "designated Saturday night bar buddy" after we realized we like the same drink.

The new member process is long and stressful. If the only reason you don't want to join is because you're not hanging out with your pledge brothers as much as you'd like to, maybe you need to completely reevaluate your situation.

Do you like the brothers?
Do you like your pledge brothers?
Do you like the fraternity in general?
Do you see yourself being an active, involved member?
Do you understand and uphold the values of the fraternity, and do you feel that the brothers do, also?

If you answered yes to these questions, and the only reason you’re questioning your circumstances is because you won’t simply pick up a phone to call your brothers to hang out, that makes me think that you’re having other problems. Either that, or you’re just blowing your situation out of proportion by thinking that this minor problem is actually something substantial.