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Originally Posted by nittanyalum
I wonder if it's another generational thing, Benz, because I relate with this. Except one friend is divorced, interestingly, the one who married a guy who was younger and still in his mid-20s when she was 31 at the time -- turns out he wasn't fully grown after all. I'll always be glad I "had my 20s" to myself, I had the time of my life and became who I am. And looking back, I can't imagine one guy I dated in high school or college (or even my early 20s) I could still imagine being with. But, as with everything, YMMV.
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I have posted almost this exact thing in another thread.
There are definitely those who marry straight out of college and stay in happily wedded bliss forever, but those that I personally knew who did this are all divorced now. My close-knit circle of friends all waited until around 30-33 for the wedding and 32-35 for the first kid. We are absolutely very different (and hopefully better?) people now than we were in the 22-25 age range. Our priorities and taste in men is also very different too. I would be so very miserable now if I had married any of the people that I dated prior to age 26!
Interestingly, in the city where I now live it is almost universal that people marry at 22 and start to work immediately on churning out at least 4 kids by thier early 30s. So... as someone in my mid-30s I have been married for 5 years and have 2 children under the age of 2. Everyone else my age has kids who are starting middle school. It is very wierd.
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Originally Posted by pinkyphimu
I also had friends who had "timelines" and got married because they were not married yet, and should have been according to their timelines. I never wanted to be that person.
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Good for you. No one should be that person.