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Originally Posted by christiangirl
Thanks, Monet. At first, I wasn't sure...it was just a gut reaction, you know? But I've thought about it and I guess...well, I've been under attack for supporting Obama, which I expected but it's made me a little touchy nonetheless. Then, having someone I've bonded with say Democrats are evil and ungodly...if it'd been a stranger, I'd have been mad but brushed it off fairly quickly. But hearing someone I know say it made me wonder if that's really what she thinks of me and my family! I know it wasn't personal, but it was such a harsh and unfair judgement. Plus, the fact that she didn't even know what she was talking about...this girl is studying to be a lawyer. If she acts like this based on what some random guy said with no proof, then that makes ME fear for the future!  |
Welp, just like PB said, folks are still sweatin' President Obama...
PM me though, I've got sumthin' for that which you speak of...
To counteract what she says though is called "assertive speech"--the key is when she said it to you, how did you feel? Exactly? Angry, hurt, alienated? What? Don't tell me, think about it for yourself.
Then once you identify your feeling, you could ask her in this format:
When you say XYZ, I feel ABC and I wonder how you feel about me and my family?
Because 9X outta 10, she is hearing these incendiary comments from people she highly respects without questioning their authority...
That does not mean you stop being friends with her, it just means the nature of your relationship changes. And you can tell her so...