RoseRed,
First your not oversensitive, especially if there is physical harm is involved in the pledging program of a friend. I had friends that got their asses paddled, but regrettably, they knew what they were getting into and really want to be in that house. As for the list of 4 things:
#1 - when we were pledges we were called scum-bags. no one took it to heart and it was (if you can see it from my perspective) all in good fun. I'm sure it may be difficult to understand that, but no one's feelings were hurt by stupid titles or words. I hate to tell you what my pledge name was
#2 - eating disgusting things is bad, but I hardly compare that to hazing. Everyone has a choice, and everyone has the right to leave if they want. I had my limits, but if the brothers eat it, then it's a gross and silly activity. Everyone thinks pledge programs should be camp fires and deep feeling confessions with hugging, etc. I wouldn't be happy about something like this, but again, No real harm is done, just possibly an upset stomach.
#3 - This one I'm on Beta's side. The match thing is not meant to burn, but to overcome pressure. Brothers hold a match, a pledge recites the alphabet. Don't burn your brothers, an exaggerated but important lesson we learned. And trust me, nobody is sick enough to hold the match once it reaches your fingers. If they ARE making them hold the match, that's hazing and that's wrong, no argument from me.
#4 - Here's where my limits come into play. Don't ever tell me to drink or touch me in any way. Physical hazing is crossing the line in my book. Some people get their kicks from it (literally) but I don't believe it serves any logical purpose.
A lot of activities get too extreme sometimes and are complete stupid. I have a different view when it comes to what's harmful hazing or unity building activities. Some are just fun for all, others are misguided. Keep an eye on your friends and members, don't let them get hurt, but at the same time, let them make their own choices. If it's really what they want, they will do it anyway.
Hope this was helpful in some way.
- RUgreek