[ASTalumna06]

Originally Posted by Zillini

So you've met a few girls in two sororities and really like them. You haven't met all the members. Who's to say you'll like them all? Who's to say you won't have a ton of things in common with members of the other sororities? Or you won't like another philanthropy, social events, etc just as much if not more? Point being, it can be a mistake to make any initial judgements beforehand. Give every chapter an opportunity to impress you and you them.

I second that.

I have read A LOT of recruitment stories on this board, and I have listened to a lot of recruitment experiences from friends, and there are numerous reasons why a potential new member’s opinions have changed about a chapter (from both negative opinions to positive ones, and vice versa), including:

- A sister they talked to one day was amazing, a sister they talked to another day was boring
- They didn’t like their house
- They loved their house and thought that the sorority clearly took pride in it
- The national philanthropy is something the PNM is already involved in
- The philanthropy project they did at the recruitment party was juvenile
- They found out that their arch-nemesis is in that sorority
- The sorority’s skit was outstanding and the sisters put a lot of thought into it
- The sorority’s preference party was meaningful and emotional
- The sisters ignored her and she was left standing by herself for some of the recruitment event
- The sorority has a full social calendar, including mixers with all of the fraternities
- The sorority doesn't have many social activities planned and instead participates in more philanthropies
- The topic of conversation was all about parties/boys/drinking
- The topic of conversation was all about something the she and the sister had in common
- There was no topic of conversation and things became awkward
- The chapter is involved in a rivalry with another sorority on campus
- She sees a sister hitting on her boyfriend at a party
- She sees a sister helping another sister with her homework
- For the most part, collectively, the sisters have completely different interests than her
- A sister talked about another sorority in a negative way
- A sister asked her what her opinions were of the other sororities so far
- A sister said, “I hope to see you again soon!”
- etc., etc., etc.

For the most part, these are things that you can't read about on a website or hear about from other potential new members going through recruitment.

For all of these reasons (and more) you might find that you absolutely love ABC, that you absolutely love a chapter other than ABC, that you absolutely hate ABC, or that you love 3 different chapters, get invited to all three for their preference parties, and can’t decide which one to rank first.

The point is, even if everyone else is telling you, “You’d be perfect for ABC or DEF,” it doesn’t mean that you are. You still know very little about these two chapters, and it sounds as if you know next to nothing about the other ones. Only you can decide which sorority is best for you. Don’t just “go in with an open mind”, go in knowing that anything could happen.