[ASTalumna06]

This whole conversation about "top" and "bottom" tiers was talked about in depth in another thread not too long ago, and I think the whole thing to be ridiculous.

As was mentioned in that thread, SORORITIES ARE DIFFERENT AT EVERY SCHOOL. And besides that, many times, after you graduate, you find out that your sorority is very different from what you may have originally thought. As an alumnae member, you get to travel outside that little bubble that is your college campus, and you have the option to help on a higher level. You find out what your sorority truly does, the magnitude of what they accomplish, and you find out that at that point, no one cares about tiers.

It might be different in the south, but guess what, before you know it, this whole thing will start to die down. Your daughter will settle in to her sorority, and she'll be off in her own world. Who knows, maybe she already is. Don't encourage her to drop out of the new member program if she doesn't want to. Let her go. These are the 4 years of her life that will mold and shape her into an adult and the last thing that you want to do is to take away that feeling of belonging that she now has. Especially if it's only because of what your friends might think.

The best advice that I can give to any sorority member is to go to Convention! Encourage your daughter to go. Even if it's just one time. I know for me it was an eye-opening experience, and it was the best look I've had into what it truly means to be in a sorority. And there, no one cares where you're from, because you're all sisters, and at that point, that's the only thing that matters.

Just remember, the whole point of sorority recruitment is to encourage women to "go GREEK". Not to "join the top tier sorority so that their parents and their friends will approve".