[nittanyalum]

Originally Posted by APhiAnna

I will be honest and say that my chapter is a strong one on our campus. We pledge the PNMs we want, socialize with the "top" fraternities, raise lots of money for our philanthropy, high grades, high activities, "moves and shakers", etc. If I wasn't a legacy it is very doubtful I would have received a bid because I am pretty different from many of the sisters, but I still connect with them and have a good time.

On the other hand there is a woman who we pledged at one point who was the biological sister of an older active. She does not even come close to fitting in and I think her sorority experience has been incredibly discouraging. She has the most incredible socials...yet she doesn't attend because she doesn't feel comfortable with the girls OR the guys. Her pledge sisters are "movers and shakers" (to use your term)...but it is a moot point because she just does not have anything in common with them. She has all the "social status" on campus she needs...but she honestly could care less about that because she has had such little fun in her sorority.

She is an incredible woman and we were excited to pledge her based on her grades, her stunning activities, her fun personality, etc. But in the end, even though she has incredible morals and a strong personality, she just does not fit in and hates her sorority. I honestly think the only reason she is still in it is because of her sister's pressure to finish it out.

The point is is that she would THRIVE at so many of the chapters at our campus. What if that was your daughter? The girl in the chapter who struggles to even make small-talk with her sisters, all the while knowing there are other sororities where she would have multiple best friends? I feel so bad for this girl and I always make it a point to include her on the rare occasions when she comes to the house, but even then I know I'm not her favorite person...we just don't click.

Please be happy that your daughter is somewhere where there are women she gets along with and has fun with. Even if you are a troll I understand this is a prevalent attitude (not just in the South) and wanted to throw my 2 cents in.

This is a GREAT post.