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Originally Posted by gee_ess
I would like to add that some of the way she feels is exactly the way many, many girls feel after the whirl and craziness of formal recruitment - even girls who have what might be called a "perfect" recruitment and get their first choice. (there are threads on GC about this very thing). So, I would advise her to (if she is allowed the time. I am not familiar with snap bidding rules) to not make any rash decisions. Take some time to get acquainted with the girls. Rest up from recruitment,etc. Sometimes it just takes a little time to settle in, regardless of the circumstances.
But if she chooses to wait and go through later, it is important that she not burn her bridges.
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Agreed.
And while she's trying to make the decision, tell her to do some research. If she hasn't already, have her visit the local and national websites for the sorority she has been invited to. If she knows any girls who are in sororities, either active or alumnae, tell her to talk to them. She can ask them about sororities in general, and about what she's feeling.
And if she does take the approach of going through in a later semester, I think it would be a very good idea that she extend the same courtesy to the President that she did to your daughter. She should talk to her about her decision and explain that it is nothing against the chapter. She can say that she doesn't know enough about it yet, that she has a busy semester, that, similar to how the sisters felt, she'd like to get to know them better before she jumps right in to being a new member. Whatever her reason might be, have her explain it to them so that she'll still have a chance to become part of the group later on if she so chooses. She can say something as simple as, "Thank you so much, you don't know how much I appreciate it, but... (reason for not joining). But I'd still love to get to know all of you." It would definitely go a long way.