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Originally Posted by texas*princess

And I could be wrong, but if there are troubles in the bedroom, (i.e. he says he is too stressed for sex or it's just not as great as it used to be and he makes excuses for it) that is a definite red flag.

Agreed!

I’m not going to imply that all men crave sex all the time, but.. they almost kind of do. Or rather, they probably won’t pass up an opportunity for it if one presents itself... especially if it's coming from their girlfriend/fiance who they love dearly.

My boyfriend is incredibly busy... he is currently taking 16 credits, he is an assistant manager at a branch of Citizens Bank where he works 30 hours/week, and he is currently living and breathing Delta Chi, as he is the New Member Director and Treasurer for his chapter. Some nights, he won’t get any more than 4 hours of sleep, and some days, between work, school/homework, and the fraternity, he’s running around straight from 8am until 11pm, or later. I’ll admit, understandably, that he doesn’t initiate sex as often during the school year as he does over the summer, but if sex is propositioned, he very rarely (if ever) turns it down.

The more you talk about your situation, the more it sounds as if there are real problems between the two of you, and this girl is not the major issue. Because if you were completely happy and content with each other, these additional problems would not be coming up. This girl just hanging out with your boyfriend, or him talking to her outside by her car shouldn’t stir up all kinds of hatred toward her. But with other things becoming problematic, I can understand why that would happen. Most people would probably associate one thing with the other.

Counseling sounds like a very good idea. But get it soon. And I know you said that you were just mad when you typed it, but definitely don’t take revenge on him, whether that be through a study buddy of your own, or by any other method.