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Originally Posted by Gretchen W
I think what I'm going to do, is do it back to him. I start my classes in the winter. I'll get a study partner too and see how he likes it.
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I really hope this is a joke. Because if this is your idea of how to deal with the situation, you and he have a lot of trouble ahead of you.
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Originally Posted by Gretchen W
Then I misunderstood you. I think it's about her.
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No, it's about you
and him. She's just a symptom. Even if the way he acts with her makes you feel like he doesn't care about you any more, that's a problem between you and him. If it hadn't been this study partner, it would have been someone or something else.
You need to ask yourself these questions (among others) and answer them honestly.
Do you trust him?
If not, why not?
If so, does he know you trust him?
Then, you and he need to have honest conversations about all of this. And I would strongly suggest pre-marital counseling. (I don't think
any couple should get married without it.)
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Originally Posted by Gretchen W
MysticCat I agree with your posts, especially seeing that you've been married for 20 years, but I do respect his feelings. I don't see the balance between the two of us, there actually hasn't been any. I do think it is about her, because we've been together for a long time and he's never ignored my thoughts on anything, until now.
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See, this what makes me think it's about you and him. Like I said, if it weren't her, it would be someone or something else.
Could it be that, now that y'all are living together, he's having second thoughts, too? Maybe this is how he's dealing with those second thoughts and communicating them to you.
I really hope you and he can find a way to talk about all of this.