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I know we're all kinda crashing on a Phi Mu thread here, but I understand what you're saying about having the perfect match for a big, my sister-mother is *still* one of my best friends.

My sister-daughter wasn't my first choice - but I love her to pieces. In my case, the choice wasn't up to me (my sister-daughter had me as her first choice, I had someone else as my first choice, that other person had someone else, and she matched perfectly with her sister-mother).

Put them in the order that you want them. You'd be thrilled to have either of them, and make sure they both know that. If you get your first choice, you can play an advisory roll to your second choice. When I was getting my sister-mother, I had two other girls that were on my list and I was on theirs, and I was in one of their weddings two years ago and unfortunately am going to have to miss the other's (family wedding, same day). That's a long way of saying we're all really close still. Plus, it was nice as a New Member to get three different opinions.