[violetpretty]

Unless you are being hazed, I find it hard to believe that you can't feel comfortable in your first choice chapter if you try. You had to have seen something you liked to rank them first. Dive in and really make an effort to find your niche in the chapter and if you really aren't happy, drop out before initiation. Just make sure that if you depledge, you're doing so because you don't want to be in this chapter, not because you're still wishing you were in the other one.

I had similar feelings at the beginning of my new member period because I didn't really get along with my pledge class. I didn't drink when I was a new member and my pledge class was really into drinking, so I naturally felt left out, but I wasn't willing to drink just to fit in. I kept thinking maybe I should have put my second choice first, that I wouldn't feel this way if I was in XYZ. However, I bonded with a number of older sisters, including my big, and those "grass is greener" feelings just melted away.