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Old 09-30-2008, 12:09 PM
ree-Xi ree-Xi is offline
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Since lavaliering is traditionally done by a fraternity member (man), the issue here is that someone in a sorority wants to give her letters to a significant other.

As with many traditions, things are done a certain way because that's the way they have always been done. If there is no tradition within sororities (and that is what you are asking, if it is appropriate for a sorority WOMAN to give her letters to a significant other), then it's likely a moot point.

It appears that you care about tradition, or you would not have asked. So the general consensus of those posting says that it would not be appropriate. The other issue is that lavaliering traditionally occurs between a couple where both people were Greek.

On the other hand, as lavaliering was traditionally/often a precursor to engagement in previous generations, it was an "open" announcement to others that the couple was very serious. It was likely intended to be something not done casually. People may wonder, are you intending to marry your girlfriend?

So you can either adhere to tradition, and accept that sorority women don't give away their letters to anyone, or you can chose to use lavaliering as a "pre-engagement" statement (not sure if that's where your relationship is headed).

It is your choice, but don't be surprised if your sisters or other Greeks disapprove. Personally, I would leave your letters out of it. There are other ways of making a gesture to your girlfriend/significant other.
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