[honeychile]

One thought: a similar situation happened with my chapter, years ago. The PNM is question was beautiful, talented, came from a prominent family, but had the foulest mouth at the weirdest times. Half of the chapter loved her (there was serious talk about Tourette's), the other half actively hated her.

Somehow, she got a bid. The tiniest misstep this poor girl took was blown completely out of proportion, everyone started to take sides, and it ended up that half of the chapter quit speaking to the other. Our suite was a minefield! Once the chapter was torn apart - several sisters took alumna status by Christmas break - she depledged, taking two other pledges with her. We went from being one of the largest, most respected chapters on campus to half that size and half that reputation with ONE WOMAN. There are sisters from that era who still don't speak to each other.

So, if I could give one piece of advice to any chapter doing membership selection, I would say to consider each PNM as if she is the only new member that they take that semester. I've yet to meet the PNM who is so perfect that she's worth the risk of losing half the chapter.