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I'm a fraternity alumnus, but this is a fairly common occurrence.
Last semester, I spoke to group of new members from my chapter. They were frustrated over this and that and one asked me if I had ever felt disconnected with the whole process.
Of course. In fact, it wasn't until about 2/3 through pledging that I considered anyone in the fraternity a "close" friend. A lot of it was probably my own fault. I was often so worried over saying the wrong thing that I often said nothing at all.
When you're not fitting in, there are only two possibilities. One, you do fit in and things just haven't come together yet. Two, you don't fit in. If you have concerns, speak to your new member educator, big sister, and chapter president. Typically, if you truly don't fit in, they'll let you know in one way or another. In all likelihood, they just think you're a quiet person.
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