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Originally Posted by RareTreasure
True, he is truly a nice person.....I'm just more into helping him realize his ways are not going to get him any where with me or any woman,
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Oh but it
is getting him somewhere! It's been getting him somewhere for five years and you've been putting up with it!
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but how could you tell a guy that without offending him?
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You don't. You just speak calmly, clearly and with conviction. Then you say, "I'm sorry" and effectively walk away.
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I dont feel that I'm not being mature by having not let him go, but I'm not being selfish....I'm trying to keep him in mind while i make decisions, because
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Is he keeping you in mind while you make decisions?
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I would want him to do the same it the shoe were on the other foot. Is that bad?
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It's not bad that you're trying to be "considerate"; it's bad that the shoe isn't on the other foot and I don't feel confident he would do the same for you if it was. In fact, by your own words, you've gone on and on about how he is stubborn and only wants things his way in spite of you already having spoken with him about this. At this point in the relationship, "trying to be a good example for him" is probably a waste of time.
.....Kelly
