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My (now) darling husband, Chris, said to me at one point in our relationship, "I do not date sorority girls." At the time, we had been dating for 2 years. I was devastated. However, my mom was going through a battle with cancer and it meant so much to me to become her "sister" when DG was colonizing at my school.
I finally told Chris that if our relationship is going to last then he does not have to support everything I do, but he must believe in my ability to make sound decisions and he must support ME. I went through the recruitment process, got a bid, and became a "sorority girl." He then saw how supportive my sister were for me (with my mom's cancer battle). He also saw that I suddenly did not become a different person. I (still) didn't drink, smoke, party, etc.
He still does not LOVE the idea of me being in a sorority, but he loves me. And I secretly think he didn't mind so much many of the events he came to in order to support me. He ended up marrying me. We are now expecting our first child. We find out the gender Oct. 6th...but both think it's a girl. He's already said he does not want to "encourage" sorority life...but he knows that I will not abandon DG as an alumna (I'm still very involved at an international level). We'll see in 18 years where life brings us!
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There are friends who pass like ships in the night, who meet for a moment, then sail out of sight, with never a backward glance of regret...Friends we meet briefly then quickly forget.
Then there are friends who sail together, through quiet waters and stormy weather. Helping each other through joy and through strife. And those are the kind who give meaning to life.
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