Thanks for your response. I was typing pretty fast and I guess I didn't make much sense.
My comments about the DGs were because if she got six recs, four would be for that house. Is that overkill or should she invest in that effort?
The comment about my cousin, the Theta, was wondering if it's appropriate to ask her as we haven't been close through the years, although she did stay here a week last November and we had a great time reconnecting. I guess I wouldn't expect to write a letter of rec for her children for a job, but the Greek system is much smaller and insular than the work world. Would she be happy to write a rec (Happy to help! Welcome to my world!) or not? I guess I included that she wasn't a DG because my mind was thinking of that if she were, I doubt she'd ask for the fifth rec for that house.
And I probably didn't phrase that well either.
But I guess no one on this board would know the answer to that question as they aren't my cousin.
Thanks again for the response! I'll direct her to the Greek Life Office and forward emails and phone numbers of potential recs for her to follow up if she's informed it's important.
You mentioned concentrating on what's in her control, I would happily hear your thoughts on that.