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Old 09-07-2008, 07:59 PM
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Originally Posted by texas*princess View Post
You signed something that said you would accept a bid from any of the top 3. If you felt you REALLY would not have accepted a bid from the 3rd group, you should not have put them there.

When you put 3 groups down, there is a chance no matter how small or great that you will get your last choice.



You should give it a shot. There are a number of girls who have told their stories here who ended up getting their "last choice" and ended up loving the house and the girls and have gone to have great experiences. It is understandable that you are shocked and maybe even upset, but hey, you signed something that said you would accept a bid from all those 3 sororities. I believe you really could be missing out on something good if you just get all upset and "take your toys and go home" without even giving them a shot.



How MS works for your friend's sorority is not the business of anyone else. However they rank or whatever is only something that will affect your chances to that one specific group and has absolutely nothing to do with the fact that you knew 2 of those girls longer and maybe didn't know anyone in those other 2 groups.

To answer your second question - It's not so much that your top 2 choices "didn't want you". They invited you to Pref. When you invite someone to Pref you are pretty much saying "We think you're awesome, and we could definitely fit in with our group" to the pnm. From what I understand women invited to Pref are all on the bidlist... it's just a matter of where on the bidlist you are. There are also many factors that contribute. Maybe you had pretty good placement on their bidlists, but the groups met quota before they got to your name? Matching is a complicated process and I'm not even going to try explaining it b/c I will confuse myself.



It depends on how you look at it.

I'm guessing if you didn't put down the 3rd group you would have went bidless and would have received "that call" from your Rho Chi.

You really have to look at the bright side here. A group really liked you enough that they invited you for membership. You should give them a chance. If you're not really feeling them, then you should probably drop before initation.

Either way, you are ineligable for another bid for a full calendar year, so you might as well give it a shot.
Well said.
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