[texas*princess]

Originally Posted by RusheeNumero3

I am really upset and am wondering why this happened to me...

Our school's greek life is really laid back. No one ever needs recommendations, and last year every girl that rushed got a bid from their first or second choice. My GPA is above a 4.0 and I have tons of community service and a few extracurriculars that I am extremely passionate about and dedicated to. Every night I got invited back to all the chapters I selected.

I put down my 3 choices on pref night. I told my Rho Chi that I really really really wouldn't be comfortable with my 3rd choice and she said there was only a slight chance of getting it and I should put it down anyway. So I did and then I signed the sheet saying that I would accept a bid from any of my top 3 and that if I didn't I couldn't pledge any other Panhellenic chapters for a calender year.

You signed something that said you would accept a bid from any of the top 3. If you felt you REALLY would not have accepted a bid from the 3rd group, you should not have put them there.

When you put 3 groups down, there is a chance no matter how small or great that you will get your last choice.

So come bid day, I was fairly confident I would get one of my top 2. I opened my bid and it was my 3rd choice. I talked to my Rho Chi and she said that I should try it out anyway. I was so shocked and broken-hearted I just couldn't bring myself to do it.

You should give it a shot. There are a number of girls who have told their stories here who ended up getting their "last choice" and ended up loving the house and the girls and have gone to have great experiences. It is understandable that you are shocked and maybe even upset, but hey, you signed something that said you would accept a bid from all those 3 sororities. I believe you really could be missing out on something good if you just get all upset and "take your toys and go home" without even giving them a shot.

Later on my friend told me that the longer a sister knows you the more voting power they have. I have known two of the sisters in my 3rd choice for over 5 years. Could their votes have overridden my rankings? Or did my top two choices just not want me?

How MS works for your friend's sorority is not the business of anyone else. However they rank or whatever is only something that will affect your chances to that one specific group and has absolutely nothing to do with the other 2 groups.

To answer your second question - It's not so much that your top 2 choices "didn't want you". They invited you to Pref. When you invite someone to Pref you are pretty much saying "We think you're awesome, and we could definitely fit in with our group" to the pnm. From what I understand women invited to Pref are all on the bidlist... it's just a matter of where on the bidlist you are. There are also many factors that contribute. Maybe you had pretty good placement on their bidlists, but the groups met quota before they got to your name? Matching is a complicated process and I'm not even going to try explaining it b/c I will confuse myself.

It would actually be better if my top two just didn't want me because then I wouldn't feel like it was my fault. Did I screw myself over just by going to my 3rd choices pref night?

It depends on how you look at it.

I'm guessing if you didn't put down the 3rd group you would have went bidless and would have received "that call" from your Rho Chi.

You really have to look at the bright side here. A group really liked you enough that they invited you for membership. You should give them a chance. If you're not really feeling them, then you should probably drop before initation.

Either way, you are ineligable for another bid for a full calendar year, so you might as well give it a shot.