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RisingSun, I know of a very similar situation as the one you are presently in. My very best friend from my pledge class was in the same position. She was highly recruited in all of the houses on campus. When she made her choice there was friction among the various groups that she did not select.

She found her home and was very happy and then after bid day you could see how things were going. (we happened to majorly hit it off on bid day and became quite close) The actives were showering her with so much more attention than the other pledges, she received the big/mom that she wanted with no questions asked, and the list goes on. It was quite obvious that she was being favored for who she was and it was uncomfortable. It made her feel awful and to the point that she was feeling different.

She did have numerous thoughts of leaving the sorority. Luckily, we bonded and she confided in me. Our friendship grew and I feel that was very important because she could talk with me about it and it helped ease the pressure/stress/tough feelings she had. It did carry on for a good while, but in time it passed and the women realized she was not perfect and really not that different than anyone else. She may have had a strong family name etc., but once people move beyond that they learn to find greatness in everyone. Things then change.

What I find most funny is other sororities always looked at her with those "big" eyes because they always wondered, but our family just welcomed her like she was just another sister. It will get better and it will feel wonderful in time. You are fortunate to be happy at your university and to have also been invited to the sorority you really wanted! Enjoy- time does move along quite fast!