[AZ-AlphaXi]

this is the method of mutual selection ...

first day is usually an open house where all PNMs visit all the sororities. Your group moves from house to house in a scheduled pattern.

second day - this is usually a first invitation day. the PNMs have either ranked all the groups at the end of the first day or receive actual invitations. in the first method, the sororities issue invitations to those PNMs they'd like to see again, and panhellenic matches up the PNMs preferences with the invitations they receive and the PNMs are presented with an event schedule. For example, on the second day the PNMs can attend 10 events (all well be scheduled one after another). If you get invited to more than 10 sororities, then you have to "cut" which ones you won't attend. in the first case, panhellenic does the matching and you would never know if a group you had listed lower in your preference did or didn't invite you, if you have a full schedule. in the second case, you get to see the actual invitations and know which ones invited you and which didn't. In either case you can attend up to 10 events, no more, and perhaps less if you don't get invited.

the next days are a repeat of this process, with successively less events that you can attend. Each day the length of the events gets longer, so even though you're going to less events the days are just as long.

last set of events is preference, these are parties where the sororities will attempt to show some of what their sisterhood is about via serious songs, serious talk, and a ceremony of some sort.

after preference, the PNMs rank the sororites in the order they wish to join.. ie ABC #1, DEF #2, and XYZ #3. if they only attended 2 or 1 preference party, panhellenic may or may not allow the PNM to list other chapters they would be willing to accept a bid from even if they didn't attend their preference party.

PNMs often have decided that a group is "not desirable" before recruitment even begins and are not happy about having to attend an event at a group they believe is not good enough for them and will skip the party or attempt to drop them even if they have room in their schedule to attend. This is not desirable, and depending on the rules of panhellenic may get you dropped from recruitment. At the least, you will not be eligible for extra consideration at bid matching time .. ie you are not eligible for quota addition if you don't "maximize" your options.

not getting a call on bid day is a good thing ... most panhellenics attempt to inform PNMs if they don't get a bid so they won't show up expecting one and are uncomfortable.

hope this helps ... if you have any explicit questions, please feel free to PM me and I'll try to answer.