Yes, we look at those things.

It really depends on how competitive her school is. If all the PNMs have a rec in hand for all sororities and your daughter has zero, she may be SOL. If recs aren't really needed there, don't worry about it. Still, it's a good thing to have because it helps the chapter get to know her.

I'll have to agree with the girls who've said that she'll have a Recruitment Counselor available to answer all questions pertaining to rush. Don't confuse yourself too much with the process. Try reading the stickied threads in the recruitment forums before throwing out questions. Those threads may be able to help you better understand it all.