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To Blondie 93
As I have stated before, my daughter just went through rush at Alabama. We are out of state and I knew how important recs and having an open mind were going to be. My daughter and I spent the entire summer securing recs and discussing rush. I told her that in my experience it is so very important to go in open to all sororities on campus. I told her it was rude to talk bad about any sorority, any sorority member and any PNM. That is not really in her character to do so but I warned her that even the most seemingly innocent comments can be misconstrued.
I think she took all of that to heart and went into rush with a very open mind. She had a wonderful time. She met so many new girls, both sorority and PNMs, and truly enjoyed the experience. She would call me and say that she couldn't believe how many great chapters there were at Alabama and how hard it woould be to make a decision. I believe that this attitude contributed to her success in rush. She did not get cut from a single house the whole way through, she received a bid to her top choice and is very happy. And although she did pledge one of those "old row" top sororities, she and I have discussed how there were a number of others that she could have been happy at.
Also, my daughter wrote thank you notes to ALL of the women who wrote her recs and wrote follow up notes to the women who wrote her recs for the sorority she pledged.
These are not difficult things. Most of them are matters of common courtesy.
My daughter is not perfect by any means but I have tried to teach her that manners are important! She did meet many girls like the one you described and from what she could tell they did not have very enjoyable rush experiences!
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