[ASTalumna06]

Is the real problem marriage, the money it will cost to get married, or is it your job?

You have to sort that out first.

I know it sucks knowing that you yourself may not be able to finance the entire wedding. I'm the kind of person that hates people paying for me/supporting me in any way. I graduated with a degree in political science, wanted to be a paralegal, couldn't find a job, went back to school for my paralegal certificate, and didn't get a job in my career for a year and a half after I graduated. It sucks, I know. But my bf started going out with me when I was struggling, and when I would get upset about money/bills, he would help me out and tell me that it's not a big deal. And it's taken me a long time to realize that it isn't. Not as long as I have him to figure things out with me.

If you're post-poning this wedding because you feel inadequate, that's a problem. But if it's as simple as you not wanting to deliver pizzas, find another job. And I'm not talking about one that's necessarily in your career field, but a job that you might feel more comfortable telling people about. You were a communications major. Why not get a job that allows you to work with people? Maybe something in customer services. You could work at the front desk in a hotel. You could get a job at the bank as a teller. You could be a receptionist in a small company. And jobs like this will most likely help you to transition into something that you really want to do someday (and they'll look better on a resume).

And it may sound strange... but if you can't get the job you want, offer to work somewhere for free. If you can't get an internship, or something similar, offer to help out somewhere for a few hours a day so that you can gain experience in your field, but also work another job to make some money.

And if it's just your stubbornness that won't allow other family members to help you pay for the wedding, then get over it. And I don't want that to come off as mean, but seriously, get over it. Because it also took me a long time to realize that other people helping you isn't such a bad thing. Embrace it. Be glad that you have people in your life who are willing to do that for you.

But if there are other problems that you just can't get over that are disallowing you to get married, then that's something that people here on Greekchat won't be able to help you with. And maybe you should see someone about that.