[violetpretty]

Also, even if an active "doesn't think you have a shot" she's not going to be rude (well, most of the time). As a chapter, you want PNMs to leave your house with a pleasant taste in their mouths at the very least. Like I said, you'll see once you recruit for your chapter. It is normal to have the feelings you had, but we were offering another take on the "fakeness" you felt based on the fact that we've had more experience in this area than you.