[SWTXBelle]

Originally Posted by uk2011

I guess that's just a difference in opinion. If a girl tells me she loves me and wants to see me come back, and then cuts me, then of course I'm going to think thats fake. Emphasis on the telling me she wants me to come back. I'm sorry you think that's so wrong.

I think the original poster's attitude is pretty average. Did you not prefer some houses over others when you went through Recruitment? I can't imagine anyone NOT having a bottom two sororities on their list. If I fell in love with one sorority, it would be hard for me to wear another groups letters with pride. I agree that if you can't do that, then you're better off not joining.

I'm just saying that I understand what this girl feels like. Maybe because I'm fresh off an emotional recruitment week, too.

And that's why actives are usually told NOT to tell a pnm anything that can be construed as a promise, or assurance that she will be invited back. It may well be that the active DID want the pnm to come back - she may have been outvoted, or the pnm may not have been qualified (g.p.a., no rec., etc.).