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My chapter had a transfer affiliate the fall of her junior year. She actually came to visit us the spring before on her spring break and she seemed to mesh well with members her year, and she even had a friend from high school in our chapter. But, soon after she affiliated, she was MIA. I have no idea if she decided she didn't like US or the general Greek experience at our school or what.

She ended up not going to anything, just paying dues and all the fines she racked up for missing mandatory events. She would avoid us like the plague; she would usually just give her dues and fines to a sister she had class with, not even stopping by the house. While I commend her dedication to the National organization by not withdrawing her membership, it would have been a better situation for her to have not affiliated in the first place because she poured about $4000 down the drain (though, she COULD have gotten her money's worth had she chose to).

I know of other chapters at Maryland that have had transfer affiliates mesh marvelously. I think it is important to have an extended "get to know you" period before the member decides to affiliate and the chapter votes on her to make sure both parties would be happy.